By worrying about our weight, our hair and everything in between, are we giving the wrong message to our daughters? One minute we are telling them to reach for the stars, become whatever they want to be, to go off and discover, and in the next breath we are convinced they have been murdered because they are late off the school bus. We tell them they are clever, funny, sporty and wise AND how great their hair, make up, legs or shoes are. Are we confusing them even more? My daughters are very aware of my insecurities, my endless bad hair days, bloated moods, wrinkles and carb-fests. To hide it from them wouldn’t be me, as one thing I do tell them to be is honest, not only with others, but with themselves. If they are not experimenting with clothes and endless YouTube make up tutorials, the best spot cover ups and hair styles, they tweet about Binky’s lank locks from Made in Chelsea, as if it’s the end of the world! I stress that beauty is within, but I also tell them that we are going out for dinner, so can they please make a bit of an effort! Confusing? You bet.
Laura Bates founder of everdaysexism.com has wise words. “Should we tell our daughters never to accept drinks from strangers and wear shoes they can run in, to avoid going out late or wear longer skirts? We should work to create a world where our daughters are as safe and respected as our sons; a world where they are not seen as prey, nor living with a one-in-five chance of becoming the victim of a sexual offence.”
She also quotes the things she would NEVER tell her daughter. “That’s not for girls”, “Take it as a compliment”, “Don’t rock the boat” and “That’ll go straight to your hips”. I hope she listens Laura.
We asked some of our Sugar women what they would tell a daughter ( or niece, god daughter or a young woman)…..
Get your own bank account. They drive you mad with money as they have no idea how much root touch-up costs.
You can do anything they can do, only better.
Remember to train a partner well. The Hoover and dishwasher are unisex.
Break the mould and go for it. It’s hard at the top, it’s hard for everybody, but if you really want it, it’s within reach.